What was supposed to be a lamentation about the lack of a cohesive online community for fathers and a call to action, mostly for myself, has been misconstrued by some as their efforts not being valid or discounting what they have done over the last few years. Apparently a few folks on twitter took umbrage at my post.
Point of fact, the female/mother blogging population is much better organized than guys. It’s true. I was pointing out in my previous post that I had found it difficult before to find the same level of prominence online for dad bloggers, got discouraged, and kinda stopped looking. In the interim, I would make some half-hearted attempts of my own with this blog, but was largely discouraged by the number of dad blogs I would find (or not) that updated maybe once a week. Those that posted regularly were few, and most of those didn’t really speak to me, usually because they were being done anonymously.
I had not intention of implying there were no dad blogs out there, or that there was no community for them. Instead, my point was more to my own experience, that it was hard to find them. Once you’re in the pool, it’s easy to get into the deep end, but you have to find the pool first. Here’s a snapshot of a google search where the top result for daddy bloggers is a website that last updated 10 months ago.
Bothering to read my post to the end, I concluded with “Enough complaining. It’s time to start doing something about this.” This was meant as more of a call to action on my own behalf, to pull myself up from my own bootstraps and not be reliant on whatever community there is or isn’t out there. I’m not denying it’s there, I just couldn’t find it when I was looking for it.
I know comparing the Stay At Home Dad Conference and BlogHer is not fair. But my point is, there isn’t a fair comparison. Guys (dads) don’t have a comparable event or organization.
Get over it.
Yes, that is directed at you. And myself as well. Time to start blogging – “for reals” this time.