There are three reasons why I don’t post as many blog entries as I should. They are in order of perhaps importance:
1 – I am inherently lazy. I have touched on this a little bit before, but it pretty much speaks for itself.
2 – I am busy writing up the actual reviews that I need to get done as well as trying to spend time with my children instead of putting them in front of the television.
3 – I have shitty role models.
While there are many problems with blogging in general, the state of daddy blogs is horrible. I’m sure that people out there could point to a few fine examples but the truth is that there are very few good blogs about being a stay at home dad. Most don’t update regularly, or the ones that do are either too fictional or so caught up in their anonymity that they wind up being worthless because I don’t have time to read between the lines. I’m not saying they are bad, just not as good as they should be despite their popularity.
Yes, there are a few out there that are honest and update regularly, but they are the exception that seems to prove the rule.
Most of those (not all) seem to be whining about how mainstream media doesn’t “get it” and wind up perpetuating the stuff they rail against. Mommy blogs are all over the place, well organized (there are a number of mommy blog networks and well attended conventions and get-togethers) but the dads seem to be content in letting the women do all the virtual heavy lifting.
I’ve been looking for a few good dad blogs to follow, but find myself gravitating towards the female counterparts, and have been for months. My bookmarks are inordinately disproportionate with a ratio of about 4:1 mommy blogs versus dad blogs. Most of the time I just “lurk” and don’t post replies. I have already mentioned my loathing of post reciprocation and fake awards – a practice that seems to be the only true self sustaining practice some of these blogs seem to exist for. I usually only reply to a post if I have something to say, which is how it should be. Unfortunately, I don’t post many comments because I’m not a mommy, so I feel a bit intrusive on the “girl’s club” or whatever.
My solution? Apparently it’s to bitch about it here where no one will read about it. Here’s where I’ve been lurking about with the regularity of an obsessive-compulsive psycho with ADD.
Mama Rosa (I can’t remember her real name)
There are a few others that I check out on a fairly regular basis, but not with the same stalker mentality.